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When being in love is to suffer, we are loving too much. When most of our conversations with close friends talking about him, of his problems, his thoughts, his feelings, we are loving too.
When justified his moods, his bad temper, his indifference, or consider them the consequences of an unhappy childhood and seek to be his therapist, we are loving too.
When we do not like his character, his way of thinking and behavior, but we adapt thinking that if we are quite attractive and affectionate he wants to change for our sake, we are loving too.
When the relationship with him jeopardizes our emotional well-being, and perhaps even our health and our security, we are loving too much.
Loving too much is treading, cancel themselves in order to devote himself completely to change a man "wrong" for us that haunts us, of course without success.
love in a healthy way is to learn to accept and love themselves first and foremost, to be able to build a peaceful and rewarding relationship with a man "right" for us.
Women who love too much are very responsible, pledging very seriously and successfully, but with low self-esteem, have little regard for his personal integrity and pour all their energies in desperate attempts to influence and control others to make them as they desire.
They have a deep fear of abandonment; think it is better to be with someone who does not meet all their needs but do not drop, rather than a male more attractive and affectionate which could also leave them for another woman .
Many women make the mistake of looking for a man to develop a relationship without first having developed a relationship with themselves, running from one man to another, looking for what is missing inside them, the search must begin within oneself. No one can love us enough to make us happy if we really love ourselves, because when we are looking for in our empty love, we can just find another empty.
We heal from the need to give more love than it receives; heal from continuing to extract love from the empty hole that is within us.
long as we continue to behave like that, trying to escape from ourselves and our pain, we can not guarire.Più we struggle and seek other avenues of escape, the worse while we try to solve dependence with the obsession. Eventually, we discover that our solutions have become our most serious problems. Desperately seeking relief and finding none, sometimes we come to the brink of insanity.
What manifest externally is a reflection of what's deep within us: what we think of our value, our right to happiness, what we believe we deserve out of life.

Adapted from Women who love too much.

Robin Norwood

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